“The first thing (needed) in any change, is for you to change your mind.”
- Joyce Meyer
When L. and I decided to leave New York City for life in New Mexico, we were excited about the changes to come.
Yet, many people responded to the news by asking, “New Mexico? Why New Mexico?,” as if we were about to do something strange or frightening, or both.
It didn’t seem to matter to them that the city that we were moving to looks like this:
Or that, from our future home we might have a view like this:
Well, from at least one of the rooms, maybe . . . if we live out far enough. (Guess we’ll just keep on renting until we find it!)
Not even hearing that the cost of living in New Mexico is way lower than NYC and that we would never-have- to-shovel-snow-again-in-life moved this crew toward a show of support. (And after the northeastern snows of last winter, that’s saying something.)
Nothing seemed to impress these people.
Instead, comments designed to discourage came fast and furious:
“Are you sure you’ll like it?”
“Don’t they have scorpions?”
“Don’t they have snakes?”
“It’s real hot there!”
And my personal favorite:
“Are there any black people there? You’ll be the only ones!”
Hmmm. Opposition and hysteria.
Isn’t that what you come up against anytime you get ready to step out into something that is new and unusual? If what you want isn’t a part of someone else’s plan for their own life, they don’t think it should be a part of yours either.
So what should you do about changing their attitude?
Absolutely nothing at all. But you must keep them from infecting yours.
If your heart is calling you away to far away places, more than anything, you’re excited. And your number one job is to stay excited.
Doing that can be more difficult when you haven’t come this way before and the details of your transition are so uncertain.
And all about you, people are doing and saying crazy stuff.
Following these five basic guidelines will help you to stay on course no matter what they throw at you:
1) Make new friends while being anti-social.
2) Don’t allow your past to limit your future.
3) Brave new worlds.
4) Choose wisely ’cause this is all about you.
5) Expand your territory.
I’ll address each of these topics over the next few weeks, touching on the experiences of others as well as my own. Would love to add yours to the mix, so please tell me . . .
Have you ever wanted to go somewhere or do something “different” and someone in your crowd made it clear that she didn’t approve of it or share your vision? How did that work out?