Five Guidelines for Living in Geographic Freedom, Part I

“The first thing (needed) in any change, is for you to change your mind.”

- Joyce Meyer

When L. and I decided to leave New York City for life in New Mexico, we were excited about the changes to come.

Yet, many people responded to the news by asking, “New Mexico? Why New Mexico?,” as if we were about to do something strange or frightening, or both.

It didn’t seem to matter to them that the city that we were moving to looks like this:


Organ Sunbeam by Joseph j7uy5

Or that, from our future home we might have a view like this:


Southern New Mexico by T Hoffarth

Well, from at least one of the rooms, maybe . . . if we live out far enough. (Guess we’ll just keep on renting until we find it!)

Not even hearing that the cost of living in New Mexico is way lower than NYC and that we would never-have- to-shovel-snow-again-in-life moved this crew toward a show of support.  (And after the northeastern snows of last winter, that’s saying something.)

Nothing seemed to impress these people.

Instead, comments designed to discourage came fast and furious:

“Are you sure you’ll like it?”

“Don’t they have scorpions?”

“Don’t they have snakes?”

“It’s real hot there!”

And my personal favorite:

“Are there any black people there? You’ll be the only ones!”

Hmmm.  Opposition and  hysteria.

Isn’t that what you come up against anytime you get ready to step out into something that is new and unusual? If what you want isn’t a part of someone else’s plan for their own life, they don’t think it should be a part of yours either.

So what should you do about changing their attitude?

Absolutely nothing at all. But you must keep them from infecting yours.

If your heart is calling you away to far away places, more than anything, you’re excited. And your number one job is to stay excited.

Doing that can be more difficult when you haven’t come this way before and the details of your transition are so uncertain.

And all about you, people are doing and saying crazy stuff.

Following these five basic guidelines will help you to stay on course no matter what they throw at you:

1) Make new friends while being anti-social.

2) Don’t allow your past to limit your future.

3) Brave new worlds.

4) Choose wisely ’cause this is all about you.

5) Expand your territory.

I’ll address each of these topics over the next few weeks, touching on the experiences of others as well as my own. Would love to add yours to the mix, so please tell me . . .

Have you ever wanted to go somewhere or do something “different” and someone in your crowd made it clear that she didn’t approve of it or share your vision? How did that work out?

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6 thoughts on “Five Guidelines for Living in Geographic Freedom, Part I

  1. This is so funny, I know I when I first read it I was one of those people thinking some of the things you listed but now I have a new understanding for New Mexico:-)


  2. You are correct when you said “If what you want isn’t a part of someone else’s plan for their own life, they don’t think it should be a part of yours either.” Unfortunately that’s the problem in some relationships. You want to grow, stretch, experience something new and they want to stick to what is familiar – but you want to ‘upset’ the apple cart. There’s a great book on this subject told in the form of a parable by Bruce Wilkinson called “The Dream Giver”. I love it!

    • Hey,Terry,

      I’ve only read a portion of The Dream Giver, but in that excellent little bit, I did see the character named “Ordinary” taking his first steps toward living an extraordinary life. Sweet.

      Does “Ordinary”, in fact, end up with the name “Extraordinary”?

      Yes, some folks do want to stand still or just tread water – keep things the way they are – but we must grow and stretch to be healthy- emotionally, mentally, spiritually, as well as physically. Otherwise, atrophy sets in.

      “Upset” the apple cart? My preference is to kick the whole thing over, but for the sake preserving a truly loving relationship, I could see removing one apple at a time!

      • You’re on!

        Won’t get to it right away – other reading underway – but once I do, let’s compare notes.
        In the meantime, here’s a recommendation for you that is about living remarkably with no regrets: In the Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day: How to Survive and Thrive When Opportunity Roars by Mark Batterson.

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